Kids quickly pick and learn some behaviors and vices from their friends. It is, therefore, important to be very sensitive and extremely carefully while watching and following their every move.
Take good care of them by being watchful of their daily life and their friends too.
You may select a few friends for your kid and think that they are the very best ones and those who will not encourage negatives behaviors, but you may be very wrong since it is much difficult to learn and tell some behavioral characteristics of some children who know how to camouflage and act like angels.
To avoid such friends that will spoil your kid, you should instead focus on how to investigate your kid’s friends and be very selective on the right and wrong friends.
Organize some play time together with their friends
In order to dig deeper and know your kid’s friends, it is important to avoid accusing them and come up with a perfect approach where you organize some playing time together with the friends.
During such times, it will be much easier to slowly investigate their characters, behavior, reasoning and their language. You can tell more by investigating slowly and trying to ask each friend questions about their personal life, what they value and their focus in life.
Act as if you are just passing time together and not merely investigating them.
Know their families
Families greatly determine the behavioral characteristics of a child. It is much important to know their homes and the families they come from.
There are high chances that they come from the same neighborhood and therefore you may happen to know their parents or any of the closest relatives.
Help your child also to learn about their friend’s family in a positive manner, For instance, if they are teens, let them know if you have any family blood connection. No matter how distant it may be, this will help them stop dating each other.
While this might be a bit extreme, you can actually find out information pretty quickly and readily through an online background check service.
Connect through heart-to-heart conversation
Kids always harbor a lot of secrets that they can openly share if you approach them from a friendly point of view. It is important to organize a heart-to-heart conversation with them focusing on their friends, behavior, characteristics, attitude and personal qualities.
This is much important since they may report some of the molestation and harassment that they have gone through the hands of their so-called “friends”. You need not to act violently, but calm down and become more composed to avoid another such instances.
Be calm and realistic
Be very realistic when it comes to how to investigate your kid’s friends. Some children are more real and outgoing than others. Don’t rely on similar tactics to investigate and tell more about all of their friends.
Some may not be open to communicate when they realize that you are trying to dig deeper into their private lived since they are not open. Be willing to listen to their side of story without criticizing them and try to understand their behavioral characteristics.
These are the most implanting tips to rely on while trying to learn more about your kid’s friends. They are more helpful in helping you raise a disciplined and focused child who will respect and honor you.